January 2020 Thank You

For those of us who have been working with kids for years now, there are a few trends we’re seeing today. One that we would all equivocally say at Daystar is that we have never seen the amount of kids—teenagers, in particular, who are struggling with loneliness. 

Maybe it’s social media, and how they have traded audience for community. Maybe it’s the pressure they’re under to over-achieve in every area and activity—thus, less time for relationships. Regardless, we’re hearing more kids talk about longing for deeper connection, and less kids who are experiencing that very thing.

“I just don’t feel like I have anyone my age who understands me—except you guys.”

“The holidays were okay—good time with my family. I just have been counting down the days till group started back up.”

“You guys know—you get me.”

Our staff was reminded this week as the kids made their way back to groups after the long break. They greeted each other with questions, such as “How was your first Christmas with your parents’ separated?” “Did you get anxious over the holidays?” And more. They remember. And ask. And connect in ways that so many kids don’t get to experience in our culture today.

Kids impact kids. We all know that truth. And often, we see that work against the kids we love. But group counseling at Daystar is one of the places we see groups help kids feel that sense of being known, connected, and loved regardless.

We wish every kid across the country had a safe place to share their hearts and lives with others their age. We’re grateful to have been able to provide a safe place within the walls of our little yellow house since 1985. And we’re so very grateful for your support that enables those groups—and that support to continue. 

Gratefully,

The Daystar Staff

April Thank You 2019

“Mom, group was awesome tonight!”

“What did you all do?”, this mom of a 5th grade boy asked her son when she picked him up from Daystar.

“We drew hearts. In them, we put different colors that stood for different emotions, taking up however much of our hearts we feel those emotions right now.”

“That’s so cool. What was it like hearing about the other boys’ hearts?”

(By the way, we love that this mom asked this question. Digging deeper…not the obvious…and prompting empathy and awareness in her middle school son.) 

“It was so cool. I NEVER HAD ANY IDEA that other guys felt like I do. I never knew other guys my age are afraid of being lonely. Or afraid of being stuck in a locker, too.”

That’s it. That sentence right there is why we have group counseling at Daystar and have since the very beginning. Kids impact kids. They hear each other’s voices so loudly. They make a difference in each other’s lives. And to know that someone else feels like we do helps us feel less lonely, less afraid, and more secure—and just more okay with who we are and how we feel—than we would have ever felt otherwise. 5th graders or 50 year olds. 

Thank you for being a part of our ministry. Thank you for helping us help kids know they’re not alone. We’re so grateful for you. And grateful to join you in bringing hope to so many families and kids of all ages.

 

Gratefully,

The Daystar Staff

 

An Advent Thank You 2018

Above all, trust in the slow work of God. We are quite naturally impatient in everything to reach the end without delay. We should like to skip the intermediate stages. We are impatient of being on the way to something unknown, something new. And yet it is the law of all progress that it is made by passing through some stages of instability—and that it may take a very long time.…Only God could say what this new spirit gradually forming within you will be. Give Our Lord the benefit of believing that his hand is leading you, and accept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete.”    

-Pierre Tielhard de Chardin, SJ 

Mary. She was profoundly familiar with the slow work of God. The nine months that she had to get used to the idea of the Messiah inside of her. God with us. With her. She must have been impatient. She was undoubtedly on the way to something unknown, something new. But God was growing something profound inside of her in the slow waiting…something that would change the world. 

We want every child at Daystar to hear the same message. Whether they walk through our doors in grief, in anxiety…whether they’ve lost a friend or lost a parent, we want them to trust that God’s hand is leading them. His hand is with them. They are not alone. Daystar is a little yellow house that gives witness daily to the slow and faithful work of God.

He is moving. He is moving in the hurt and in the worry. He is bringing something good to fruition in the waiting. In the 8 year old girl with anxiety. In the 15 year old boy who lost his dad. In the 12 year old who feels lost and alone. Even in the midst of those things, we—they—are enlarged in the waiting. And we have the privilege of waiting with them.

“That is why waiting does not diminish us, any more than waiting diminishes a pregnant mother. We are enlarge in the waiting. We, of course, don’t see what is enlarging us. But the longer we wait, the larger we become, and the more joyful our expectancy…That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.”

                                                                                                Romans 8:24-26, 28

We’re so grateful for your support of Daystar Counseling Ministries. We’re honored to join you in the waiting this Advent season.

The Daystar Staff

October Thank You 2018

This year I was so blessed to be able to participate in Daystar’s 23rd annual Bike and Hike thing and for the first time as a Daystar alum. Wow, how weird to think that I am an alum of the place I have called my second home. Even though I don’t get to attend my favorite Thursday night group or individual counseling sessions with Sissy anymore, I still felt that I could make an impact on the little yellow house even while being over 300 miles away. As many that attend Daystar have big mountains they are hiking, my family and I have also faced similar challenges and without Daystar, those mountains can seem too big to overcome. Because of the way Daystar has walked alongside me for as long as I can remember, I wanted to give back in the hope that more kids can experience the love and comfort that I have received for many years. 


     Because Daystar is based on a sliding scale, they are dedicated to never turning a family away based on financial struggles. Daystar has been a place that I can feel safe, supported, and truly become the best version of myself. I think as a kid growing up in today’s society, it can be so easy to lose who you are and get lost in the midst of today’s pressures and stigmas. Daystar was the place I was able to grow into the person God created me to be, and I was able to be supported and loved on by not only the incredible staff, but also the lifelong friends I made through both Daystar and Camp Hopetown. I cannot thank you all enough for your contribution to Daystar as it goes further than you could ever imagine, and I cannot wait to see the many more lives that are touched thanks to your donation.

 The Daystar Staff

 

A Summer Thank You

As the summer comes to an end, we are left with a parting gift from our Hopetown Interns. They took Melissa’s week by week teachings and transformed them into the stanzas of a liturgy. It is a liturgy that reveals a glimpse into the theme of each of our summer sessions. Strengthening our hands in Jesus, the lens we view the world through, how we bury our treasure and how to uncover it, that we always have a seat at God’s table, being a guiding light and childlike follower of Jesus, leaning on our confidence in God in the midst of a storm and being the salt of the earth bringing out the God-flavors in those around you. This Liturgy is an incredible reminder of the God-flavored summer we had, and a beautiful picture of the hearts, creativity and wisdom of these tremendous college students we call our Hopetown staff.

A Liturgy for Hopetown 2018

You, oh Lord, have been at work at Hopetown

Guiding others to you by day and night

With each new morning,

We have grown closer to you

Learning the way you love

Thank you for being our potter

You soften, shape, and strengthen us, your clay

Our hearts are naturally hard, and our hands are weak

Yet when we hold to your hand

We loosen our grip and cling ever closer to you

Thank you for cleansing our hands each new day

Thank you for putting so much beauty in our lives

We want to see it like you do, glasses removed

Help us look and see and uncover our treasure

For there is sin and mourning in the world

But you have given us the tools to find beauty and light

 

Thank you for saving us a seat at your table

In you we find belonging and friendship

You invite our real selves and tear away our scales

For we cannot do it on our own

Only you can frame our grief with hope

 

Thank you that our worth does not lie in our performance

When we reflect your love, our hearts are put right

We ask for childlike hearts

So that we shine like beacons

Guiding the lost closer to you

Oh Lord, you are the ultimate gift

You have blessed us with a purpose

Thank you for your promises to us

Self-confidence is not enough to get us through our storms

While the boat may break and the pieces may shatter

You give us a plank to hold onto when the waves overwhelm us

Help us remember that our worth and confidence lie in you

You help us steward our pain while calming the storm around us 

Thank you for turning our dead sea into waters of life

You call us to be salt

Bringing out the best in others and pointing to you

Blessed are those who partake in your joy and unity

Help us to follow your Spirit while you mix the waters

 

With warm appreciation,

The Daystar Staff