Our Enneagram Test

One

1. I often value productivity over relationships.

2. I’m idealistic --I consciously and unconsciously set high goals for myself and others.

3. Others see me as confident, but I’m very critical of myself on the inside.

4. When I relax I feel guilty, and I can only relax after all the work is done.

5. I put a high value on integrity and only really trust other people who I believe are honest and trustworthy.

6. I try really hard and am hard on myself.

7. I expect others to try hard, too and get frustrated when it seems like I’m trying harder than they are.

8. I can forgive easily when people own up to their mistakes. When they don’t...not so much.

9. It drives me crazy when people break the rules, like getting off an airplane before their turn.

10. I seem to be able to get a lot accomplished in a short amount of time.

11. I lean toward black and white thinking--seeing the world as right or wrong, good or bad.

12. I see what’s wrong before I see what’s right.

13. I am good at making lists and checking them off.

14. Others see me as a strong leader and sometimes miss when I’m having a hard time.

15. It bothers me when people spell or say things incorrectly .

16. I don’t compare myself with others as much as the impossible standard I’ve created in my own head.

17. I often feel anger inside of myself, but work hard to keep it there for fear of hurting others’ feelings.

18.I think I have to make every detail perfect and can drive myself crazy checking and rechecking to make sure.

19. I often do more than my share of the work.

20. In order to avoid criticism from myself and others, I try to do everything correctly.

Two

1. I care more about my relationships than my goals.

2. I put most of my energy into supporting, helping, and feeling close to others.

3. I get territorial over my relationships and want to be the only friend people come to for help.

4. I give in order to get, and get resentful when people don’t pick up on it.

5. I have used other people's problems to distract me from my own.

6. Sometimes I offer to help even when I’m at my limit just so people will think I’m a nice person.

7. I pay close attention to other people’s feelings and remember the details that make up their lives.

8. When somebody gives me something, I feel like I need to give back.

9. I get starstruck by people who seem to have it all together.

10. A lot of people call on me for help, and it makes me feel like a million bucks.

11. In a group of people, I’m so aware of others’ feelings that I can’t figure out my own.

12.I don’t want anyone to know how desperately I need other people.

13. When I don’t feel as close to people as I want to, I manipulate them to get what I want.

14. I often spam-text my friends with compliments and reminders of how special they are to me.

15. People have said I am sensitive and emotional. I hate this, but it’s true.

16. People are drawn to my excitement and positive view of life.

17. I try to avoid conflict with others, because I want everyone to like me, but I tend to gossip when they’re not around.

18. Sometimes I feel like no one really knows me.

19. I feel like I can read people’s minds and try to meet their every need.

20. I get a big head from trying to save others.

Three

My friends see me as driven, charming, and goal oriented.
I want people to think I perform perfectly.
I don’t usually depend on people. I like to do things on my own.
It’s important to me to make a good impression on others even if I have to stretch the truth and pretend to be someone I’m not.
I feel comfortable in the spotlight and find myself there a lot.
I hate to lose. I want to be the best.
I like to be a leader rather than a follower.
Sometimes I’m so competitive that I push people down in order to get to the top.
I can find a way to relate to just about anyone.
Talking about my real feelings is not my favorite.
I stay busy.
I go the extra mile on all homework and assignments.
I believe everyone should try to be the best they can be.
I like to be seen with other popular or high achieving people.
I usually like who I am.
I am high energy. The more I get done in a day the better I feel about myself.
I’m good at certain things and I know it.
I am highly sensitive to how people respond to me.
I am a pro multitasker.
I can become jealous if I am not the most successful.

Four

I am a private person and often find myself being alone.
Typically I need time to process my feelings before I act.
I separate myself from others in hopes of gaining attention.
I tend to be self absorbed and concerned with my own thoughts and feelings.
I often expect what can only happen in a dream world.
I am fearful of being called normal. I am a trendsetter, not a conformer.
I feel like I am always the odd ball out and searching for my place to belong.
My feelings are so extreme that they become overwhelming.
I feel comfortable being sad. Do not try to get me to see the silver lining.
It’s easy to dream and hard to do.
I don’t like being misunderstood.
I over exaggerate my pain to get attention and pity from others.
I envy what others have, who they connect with, and their significant experiences that gain attention.
I feel things more intensely than others. Small talk is more draining than deep conversations.
I’d rather dwell in the past and dream up my future than be stuck in the present day.
I want to be seen as being special. No one can be like me.
I get bored living in an ordinary world.
I am suspicious of people who are too happy. I see them as being inauthentic and manipulative.
I feel what others feel.
I like things that stand out as intense or unique.

Five

I like my own space and can get irritated when people come into it.
People value my wisdom.
I like to consider all my options before making a decision. When there are unanswered questions I don’t know what to do.
When emotions don’t fit in a box, I have a hard time dealing with them.
Sometimes I have sarcastic or pessimistic thoughts, but I don’t share them out loud.
I feel more comfortable by myself than with other people.
I tend to trust my thoughts more than my feelings.
My energy is valuable and limited. I’m very picky with who and what takes it from me.
I think I know more than others, and can make others feel dumb.
My friends would say I’m a good listener.
I like to learn things through reading or observing.
I process and understand my feelings best when I am alone.
I’m not always good about being generous with others. I like to keep what I have to myself.
I would much rather spend time alone or with a few close friends than go to a big party with tons of people.
I am capable of handling my own issues and don’t want others helping me.
It’s hard for me to answer broad questions about myself. I like concrete answers.
I like when people notice and appreciate my knowledge.
I will likely not speak up if I do not know exactly what I want to say.
Direct confrontation exhausts me.
When people boss me around, I get angry or panicked.

Six

I find myself always trying to be one step ahead to avoid potential problems.
It’s important to me to be cautious and thoughtful.
My friends would say that I am loyal, responsible, and dependable.
I long to find friends I can truly trust, and once I do, I am loyal, even to a fault sometimes.
I feel the most myself when I am secure in my relationships.
When I’m stressed, I become irrational and skeptical of others. I assume that everyone is against me and lash out.
Sometimes it’s hard for me to trust the people in charge, so I push their buttons to test them out.
Feeling confident I made the best decision is hard for me.
I don’t trust people overnight. It takes me time to figure out who to really trust.
I’m not a fan of change, and can get controlling about knowing what’s next. I like to know what’s coming.
I am always scanning the room for possible dangers.
My friends would say I am funny in a way that doesn’t call attention to myself.
Too many compliments makes me skeptical of someone’s motivation.
Sometimes I am so worried about what could go wrong that I miss the opportunity to enjoy the present.
The worst version of me seems to come out around those I am closest with.
I feel like I spend more time worrying about everything than my friends do.
I relate to a duck. I look peaceful and put together on the surface, but underwater my feet are kicking obsessively.
I ask a lot of people for advice, but in the end I want to be the one that makes the decision.
Sometimes I feel myself creating a situation to see how loyal my friends really are.
I often find myself unable to be present with those around me because I’m so busy in my own head.

Seven

I’m easy going and love unplanned adventures.
I am impulsive and sometimes wreckless...I usually act before I think.
I have a serious fear of missing out (fomo), I worry that there is something better going on.
When I finally slow down, I get anxious that I’m not moving and I make myself busy.
I almost always want to be hanging out with or talking with my friends.
I am a great imaginer, but working out the details is difficult.
I look at life glass half full.
Making a commitment means I could miss out on a better deal, so I get flakey. When I pick the better deal, it makes others feel less important.
I like to keep conversation fun and on the surface. Going deep means I have to address my own feelings.
Why do things have to end? Endings are the worst.
I always want to have plans because life is more fun when you have things to look forward to.
I am always on the move and have enough energy to be so.
I feel comfortable in a crowd.
I like people who are energetic and down for an adventure, basically I want my friends to be just like me.
Sadness makes me uncomfortable, so I gloss over the painful things in my life and other people’s lives, so they don’t bring me down.
I am like a kid in a candy store, I want to try anything and everything in life.
I hate when people's needs conflict with my own plans. Don't depend on me when I have an adventure to get to.
I never feel like I have enough, so I impulsively binge on things that feel good.
I love to be at center stage with everyone laughing and cheering me on, and can be unaware of others.
People see me as confident even when I feel like I could fall apart at any moment, I love that.

Eight

I am not afraid of confrontation. Sometimes I like it.
I can be blunt and sometimes bulldoze others. I move on quickly, but my words leave them hurting.
I worry that my vulnerability will make me look weak, and I’ll regret opening up.
Being independent is very important to me. I trust myself more than others, and can take over and try to be the boss.
Sometimes I am so oppositional that I become intimidating and scare people away.
If I commit to something, I’m all in and want to make it count.
Honesty is essential in all of my relationships.
When I walk into a room I can usually tell who is in charge.
I enjoy a friendly argument with people I trust. It energizes me.
If you don’t stand up for yourself, say goodbye to my respect.
Overly nice and enthusiastic people are not real.
I often stand up for the underdog.
Don’t manipulate me if you want to stay friends.
I don’t like conformity. Individualism is important to me.
I like when things are fair.
I am decisive. It is frustrating when it takes others a long time to make decisions.
I can get intense, and disregard others wishes to get what I want.
I appear tough on the outside, but am actually tender on the inside.
I am very protective of people who are close to me.
I am honest and do not beat around the bush.

Nine

I always try to avoid having confrontations with other people.
It is important to me to feel calm and relaxed on the inside.
I don’t want to stick out in groups. I’d rather blend in with people.
Sometimes I give in to people’s demands too easily and don’t stand up for myself. Eventually I lose it and explode.
Overall, I am laid-back, low-maintenance, and agreeable.
I never want to be the one that causes a problem for other people.
I usually choose to do things in a way that feels easy and comfortable to me. Sometimes that means I give up on things that require some effort.
When I’m angry, I get quiet, stubborn, and passive-aggressive.
It is hard for me to start projects, but once I get going I can keep going.
I can be indecisive. I have no problem with doing what others want to do.
I love having a routine and predictability in my day.
When I am with other people, it can be hard for me to even know what I want.
I would rather go to sleep than think about things that are sad and upsetting.
When other people tell me what to do, I can get stubborn on the inside, but not necessarily show it.
I don’t like being in a rush or feeling stressed out about things.
Sometimes I doubt myself and shrink back around other people.
My friends tell me I am a calming presence for them.
Physical comfort is important to me. I’m a creature of habit, even to a fault.
I believe everything will ultimately work out in the end.
I do not want all of the attention to be on me.

Day 1

Take the test!

Day 2

What do you identify with about the description of your number?

What are some of the strengths of your number?

Who sees the best version of you?

Where do you see opportunities to use the gifts you’ve been given?

1- Hard working, care about doing things right, see what’s wrong in the world and want to make it right, do what they say they will do, responsible, trustworthy, full of integrity, strong moral compass

2 - Intuitive (able to read the room), empathy, generosity, sacrificial, gives time and attention to others feelings, wants to help, compassionate, takes care of others, the kind of friend thats on your team

3 - Hard working, driven, charming, able to read a room, can pick up on what others want, efficient, decisive, strong leaders, clever, willing to go the extra mile, energetic, ambitious, believe in themselves, capable

4 - Creative, empathetic, sensitive, emotionally honest, deep feelers, attuned to beauty, able to sit with others pain without trying to fix it, self-aware

5 - Intelligent, clever, witty, love to learn, pick up on the details, pay close attention to their surroundings

6 - Loyal, team players, always prepared, trustworthy, committed to the things and people they care about, follow the rules, care about doing things right, consistent, steady, dependable

7 - Energetic, adventurous, funny, life of the party, love to have a good time, always see the bright side

8 - Leaders, passionate, determined, honest and straightforward

Day 3

How does your sin come out?

How does it impact other people?

Who sees the worst version of you? Or gets the brunt of your stress?

Day 4

Do you know what number anyone in your family identifies with?

Homework: Ask people in your family to take the test with you. Ask them more about what number they think they are. What is one way you could love & encourage each other based on what you’ve learned?